Childcare while in Italy

Dan & I had the wonderful opportunity to get away on a child-free vacation recently. This was our very first child-free, overnight vacation in more than 8 years. 

Yes, you read that right. And, yes, we are officially crazy. 

In all honesty, it’s not that we never wanted to have a night away, together, without children. The reason was more or less that we never had the opportunity, due to breastfeeding babies, attachment/colic issues with child #1, then twins (3 kids under age 3!), then my own separation anxiety/night issues after Matteo died, which left me feeling the need to check on the kids often throughout the night to make sure they were still breathing. (Yes, crazy again. I know.) And most recently… we just truly needed someone who could take care of our army of children, as well as manage a very busy school/activity schedule. Four kids is a lot. Add taxi, constant meal service, and medical emergencies (because of course there's always 1 when mom & dad are away!)... and well, I imagine it could push a weak soldier over the edge.

Until now, the children always vacationed WITH us… Hawaii, Mexico, Canada, Arizona, Minnesota, Colorado, California, Oregon, etc. We did have one vacation in March 2009 to Mexico where we just took Gabby. My parents and our au pair at the time stayed with the twins in CA. It was relaxing to get away with just one child. But still, at age 3, she kept us quite busy. 

So - finally! A kid free vacation! We were excited...

We recruited and enlisted the help of my parents, as well as one of our favorite former au pairs from Germany, Maria. Maria and my parents know each other well, which made us even more comfortable. The kids were SO EXCITED to hear that we had bought tickets for Maria to come visit us again. They asked every day for a month “when will Maria be here?”. And, having gammy and papa visit at the same time would be the icing on the cake. I figured Maria would be like the team captain of child duty and play, my mom was designated as chief homework, story reader, medicine dispenser, and snuggler (needed her to refrain from heavy lifting & vigorous activity). And, my dad was named chief chauffeur (and probably errand/grocery/drug store runner). 

We learned quickly about the only real emergency while we were gone. Rocco had an awful asthma attack that landed gammy & papa at the emergency room from 11:30pm-3am. This also required frequent checks throughout the night the following 2 nights to make sure he wasn’t having any trouble breathing, etc. Add this asthma drama to a topical allergic reaction he was having to all the pollen in the air, and toss in Marco’s twice daily Rx administration (not easy with this kid!) for his ear infection… it was like the perfect little storm to keep everyone on their toes. Needless to say, my parents were exhausted 3 days into our trip (and probably wishing they hadn’t committed to this! Oy!). Hopefully, the gifts we shipped and brought back with us will make up for all the drama and sleep deprivation. 

The only other real issue was that we had planned for Marco to sleep with gammy and papa. But, he quickly decided he wanted nothing to do with that. Instead, he preferred sleeping with Maria (or, “Ria”, as he calls her). So, poor Maria got the mommy treatment… little feet kicking her in the face and chest during the night, and a few snuggles too, while we were away. Dan and I joked this was GREAT birth control for Maria! Sorry Maria!

We are beyond thankful for these special people in our lives! Clearly, we could not have been more confident with anyone on the planet taking care of our children when we are not there. So HUGE, GIGANTIC thank you to gammy, papa and our favorite Maria! We love you and are so thankful to have you in our lives, and for allowing us to get away together and relax.